On Facebook I am part of a group dedicated to people who have been part of the online virtual world, Second Life (SL), for a long time, we chat about memories, and those who are still active may talk about what they’ve been up to recently, especially when something significant happened.
I used to spend hours in SL, often in virtual clubs, dancing and talking to people or in roleplay environments. What triggered this weeks post was seeing someone post about a club closing, and seeing pictures of people in such a club brought back memories.. then I did the maths.. I first joined SL nearly 10 years ago, in July if memory serves, 2005.
My response was to post the following in the group :-
Seeing the post a few posts down about Chase’s sky club brought back memories of spending hours in such places.
10 years ago, wow that long ago!! I found this little corner of the online world, 2015 and my life has changed beyond all recognition, but you know.. I doubt I would be here now, living the life I am, if it wasn’t for Second Life and some awesome friends.
I properly found myself through Second Life, I got into University on the back of Second Life and without those two facts, and one person in particular who’s been with me since those early days and is still a very good friend now, I wouldn’t be where I am now.
I no longer have time for Second Life, my life has simply become too busy and I’m extremely fortunate to have many many friends I socialise with and new sports to play (Roller Derby for those who are interested), heck I’m going out again today.. for the 6th straight day.. with friends!!
But I am certain I wouldn’t be where I am without Second Life so thankyou to SL and my friends I made there, love you all
I’d had female characters in my previous go-to online world, Starwars Galaxies, and while I was most definitely comfortable playing the female role, I didn’t realise at the time I was actually female. That changed in SL, slowly I became to realise that I was actually female, and that slowly migrated into my real life. As I am sure with many people who are in a similar position to what I was, it can take a little time to realise who you truly are.
But the big message I wanted to give in this post, is to show, don’t give up. 10 years ago all my friends were 100% online, my only non-online socialising was at Cricket, and even then I was a bit of an outsider and maybe even suffered a bit of bullying. I now have many friends, all of whom I value, socialise regularly, even have a regular music practice with a friend – all which keeps me busy but more importantly shows just how far you can come.
Patience is definitely needed, and at times I definitely couldn’t see the light at the end of the tunnel, or in my case how I was going to transition. But things worked out, my marriage fell apart pretty naturally and from there things snowballed. I now am myself, am insanely busy, enjoying life, and have two jobs (when the DBS finally gets sorted for the second) – and ALL of you can do it, I’ve not done anything special or different, I’ve just been me and been patient – nothing more, nothing less.
So I hope this weeks post gives people who may be feeling trapped or are struggling a bit of confidence things CAN get better. There’s no guarantee at all, of course, but over 10 years my life has changed incredibly and most of it’s been through me doing nothing special other than me.